SO, WHAT IS A DEATH DOULA?
May the flame never be extinguished.
TW: Discussion of death, loss, and grief.
--What is a death doula?--
Just as a birth doula helps one enter, a death doula helps one leave. I assist you with comfort, end of life arrangements, assist the person who is leaving and their family to help them navigate through the whole end-of-life process.
--What services does a death doula offer?--
Each death doula brings a unique approach and set of offerings, typically focused on non-medical, holistic support. My services may include sitting vigil during the dying process, guiding families through after-death care in the home, creating meaningful death rituals, supporting grief processing, organizing digital assets and social media accounts, developing legacy projects (such as letters, keepsakes, or creative works made with or by the dying person), and helping individuals and families navigate life-altering or terminal diagnoses.
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--Why work with a death doula?--
Death is taboo. We don't talk about it socially as it can be considered grim, dour, or just outright brings down the vibe of a room. We need to talk about it. Its going to happen to all of us, like it or not - and being prepared can ease the process, or begin healing if the process is already under way.
Death doulas and end of life workers are here to hold the torch as you pass through the dark - we are your guide through uncertain times, your navigator on stormy seas, and your rock. I am with you to assist in coordination of care, advocacy, household tasks - whatever you may need for support outside of any services that require a professional license I do not possess — such as those of a funeral director, medical provider, or attorney. My role is to walk alongside you, offering support in the spaces those professionals don’t occupy.
Simply put - I am in your service for the intense, the painful, the mundane, the emotional - the 'all of the above'.
Before we do anything exchanging funds - I will consult with you on your needs absolutely free of charge.
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--What sort of passings do death doulas work with?--
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As with all doulas, each of us brings our own focus and philosophy to this work. I offer support around all kinds of endings — including pregnancy loss of all kinds, the death of a beloved pet, or a conscious choice to end one’s life.
I also work with those who remain, walking alongside them through grief, adjustment, and the long, non-linear path of healing.
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Not all endings involve physical death. I also hold space for the symbolic losses — letting go of a past version of yourself, releasing relationships, identities, or chapters that no longer serve you. Whether you’re navigating sorrow, transformation, or something in between, I’m here to walk with you.
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--What do you charge for your services?--
Every situation is different, and so is every care plan. I offer services either by the hour or in packages, depending on what feels right for you. My hourly rate ranges from $75 to $150, based on the kind of support you need and how long we’ll be working together.
We’ll start with a free meeting to talk through your story, your goals, and what kind of care you're looking for. From there, I’ll share some options and we’ll build something that feels aligned—clear, honest, and manageable.
And if you're not seeing a service that you're looking for, reach out anyway. Whether it’s a single session or something more in-depth, we’ll create a plan that fits your needs and honors your values. I'm here to support you—wherever you are in the process.
Everyone deserves care - we will make it work.
--Are death doulas religious or secular?--
That is up to each individual, however, this practice is no denomination, no judgement. I am a student of world cultures regarding death rituals, and can adhere to and respectfully facilitate any desired flow or style, including ancient rites. My personal beliefs and spiritual position do not influence my practice, and are only discussed if you so desire. The spiritual space of the client supersedes all else.
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This is not about me; this is about you - my client, my friend - and the needs you have to be met.